I usually write about meeting women, going on dates and getting those dates to end in bed. And sometimes, that’s enough – but what happens when you want to turn sex into a relationship?
I have a friend who can’t keep a girl for longer than 2-3 months despite “scoring” regularly. He can’t understand why women lose interest in him so quickly.
Most guys have the same problem.
If they get a girl, they quickly scare her away with their unattractive habits. I break these repulsive behaviors – or turn-offs – into two broad categories: physical and behavioral.
The first few months together give a girl enough time to “really know you.” If you can’t keep these turn-offs under control during this time, you’ll lose your chick.
Read this post, discover the 20 turn-offs that scare women away and start turning sex into relationships!
Physical Turn-Offs: Bad Habits
Women aren’t looking for the strongest, most handsome guy in the room. They just want a man with class, confidence and good etiquette.
That’s why these “physical turnoffs” aren’t about your belly; chicken arms; inability to bench press 180kg. These are basic mistakes you can stop making now to make women attracted to you in the long run.
1. The open-mouth yawn
Do you think she wants to look at your tonsils every time you’re tired? No – besides, this is basic etiquette!
2. Burping loudly in public
Okay in some Asian countries; not okay in Western culture.
3. Spitting
Regardless of how bad you think you want to, try to hold it in when your girl’s around.
4. Clearing your throat of phlegm
You can wash mucus down by drinking some water. If you really have to clear your throat, use the bathroom.
5. Picking your nose
Seems obvious, but it’s easy to forget yourself after 1-2 months of dating someone. Don’t do this around girls.
6. Displaying nervous ticks
Nervous ticks range from nail-biting to blinking profusely. It’s hard to control these habits, but do your best – they’re not very attractive.
7. Bad Table Manners
Eat with your mouth closed; hold fork and knife properly; don’t talk while chewing. No girl wants your half-chewed puree in her hair.
8. Blowing your nose
Many guys feel this is normal, but girls get grossed out about it.
9. Scratching your private bits
They’re called private for a reason. Most women feel uncomfortable when a man scratches his testicles or butt in public.
Physical Turn-Offs: Your Appearance
10. Eye crust
Avoided by washing your face in the morning.
11. Bad breath
Over 85% of people suffer from halitosis (bad breath) at some point in their lives. Floss, brush your tongue and use mouthwash.
12. Sweaty Pits
These are gross but some guys just can’t avoid them. If you sweat profusely despite using deodorant, try wearing light color clothes (or plain black). Sweat stains are less visible on them.
13. Clothes issues
These can be stains or wrinkles on clothing, holes in your underwear/undershirt, smelly socks, etc. Sort them out.
14. Dirty, long fingernails
Women look at hands all the time and they hate a guy whose hands look like he’s been gardening all day. Unless you play classical guitar, keep your nails trimmed.
Behavioral Turn-Offs
15. Constantly talking about yourself
She does want to know you but she also wants you to know her. Be interested in her and don’t go overboard with the talking.
16. Not listening to her
During these first months do your best to listen; it may seem hard but it has to be done. Women love a guy who knows when to listen.
17. Being too vague
Constantly talking about yourself is no good but remember: she wants to know you. Let her in on the interesting stuff if not your entire life story.
18. Checking out other girls openly
You’re out with her because you’re interested in her. If you keep looking at other women she’ll just think you find her unattractive – and why would she stay with a man like that?
19. Complaining all the time
If you hate your life, why would she want to be part of it?
20. Not introducing her to people you know
She wants to be part of “your world.” With you, she can meet people and do stuff she wouldn’t have done with anyone else. Don’t keep that away from her.
21. Laughing like a hyena
She might have great sense of humor but laughing so hard that everyone in the restaurant looks at you is just embarrassing.
22. Insulting women and exes
This only shows how you’ll talk about her if you break up – and that you’re living in the past. No matter how much pain and suffering your ex put you through, keep those stories for your friends.
23. Having a one-track mind
A man should always stand by his beliefs but he must also be opened to new possibilities. Acknowledge her point of view as valid, even when you disagree.
In Closing
As exhaustive as this list may seem, you’ve probably heard your female friends complain about some of this stuff. This list helps women decide whether a guy is boyfriend material or a one-time thing.
Always remember: it’s not just the first few dates that require your constant attention, it’s the first few months.
Most guys keep a lid on these habits for a few dates, but relax once they have the girl – which is what will drive her away.
You wouldn’t feel attracted to a girl if she started burping, scratching her crotch and checking out other guys 24/7… So don’t make the same mistakes!
You can also use it for yourself. If a girl’s doing too many of these things, it might be best to stay away.
Eventually things settle down and you can relax more. Once she’s had the chance to know and like you for your true self, she’ll tolerate some of your bad “qualities” – but before that happens, use this list to stay on her good side!
Alex is a dating expert with a Master’s degree in social psychology. This is the sort of stuff he writes about on his blog and шт the free eBook he gives out.
If you want to increase your success with women, visit his site: The Player Guide, a place where the most direct and effective methods of meeting and seducing women are revealed.
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The only thing that I do from that list is bite my nails. Although, I don’t normally do it in front of other people, more when I am working on my pc or watching tv.
I have to say this is a good list for both sides, for women and men. My gf, not sure why, she used to burp loudly, when she was with me. I truly hate it and makes me feel disgust. So one day I told her, it was a total turn off and I didn’t like it. She stopped… forever
Basically what I am saying is, if you are with someone with an habit, which you don’t enjoy then you should simply tell him/her.
Thanks for the article.
Absolutely agree. I think it’s not a big deal to stop burping or scratching your butt.. However, many people probably feel awkward about being so direct so they never say anything.
Succinct and spot on. It’s easy to get comfortable in a relationship and let yourself go a little. Truth is, you should always strive to improve and reinforce why she’s with you in the first place.
Constantly complaining (#19) and showing resentment towards women (#22) are especially important. Those two alone will turn her off faster than almost anything else.
That being said, I still bite my nails on occasion out of habit. But, I’m aware of it and stop myself whenever I start. You’ve got to pay attention to your unattractive habits and consciously work to break them.
Again, excellent article!
Thanks for commenting, Nick. I guess we all have bad habits. Sometimes, I still do/say things that make me think, “oh my god, that was so lame!”
But knowing what to look out for is a big help. Like you said, you can at least stop yourself quickly or do damage control.
I apologize deeply for reading (and perhaps even more for replying to) this, as I’m not a man. I was directed to your website by a Pick The Brain article by you that was recently posted. I was intrigued by your perspective, so I thought I’d check out your site. I hope I’m not stepping on any toes . . . or over any boundaries.
Anyway, I just wanted to say that I LOVED this list post! It should be required reading before *any* man goes on a date. (By the way, most of these could easily be applied to women, too.) I sure wish my fiance had read this!! He doesn’t think honking his nose when he blows it is a big deal. It makes my skin crawl every time he does it (and he does it a lot). I guess it says more about me than him if I continue to put up with it (as well as his other annoying habits, like spitting in public, constantly talking about himself, and using every opportunity to complain about the dismal state of the world). UGH. Guess I deserve him, though, if I stay. We’ve been together nearly 7 years.
Oh, well. Hopefully, your post may save many future relationships — even one would be worth it! I just wish my man had seen it before we got together.
Keep up the awesome work!
Nobody’s perfect, huh? If you’ve been together for 7 years, he probably has more than a couple of redeeming qualities. According to a Russian saying, you know you really love someone when you know all their annoying habits… and still put up with them
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