Comments on: 5 Dumb Things Men Think Women Want https://themanupblog.com/5-dumb-things-men-think-women-want/ A Guide to Everything a Man Should Know Wed, 02 May 2012 13:59:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: George P.H. https://themanupblog.com/5-dumb-things-men-think-women-want/#comment-479 George P.H. Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:58:27 +0000 https://themanupblog.com/?p=725#comment-479 So true. I don't know which girl was right for Scott, but I often think about why we want the women we can't have. I feel that when you chase a girl, you build up her value in your mind. In my case, it's an ego thing. When a girl's cold to me, my first impulse is to think: "huh, I guess she must be really cool if she's treating me this way." Of course, this is faulty thinking - but that's the impulse :). The best way to deal with this, I've found, is to create options for yourself. When you have a lot of girls who like you, the ones who don't seem unimportant. The other thing that helps is meditation. When you're aware of your own thoughts, it's easy to tell if you only want a girl to prove something to yourself. Thanks for your insights, good stuff as always :). So true. I don’t know which girl was right for Scott, but I often think about why we want the women we can’t have.

I feel that when you chase a girl, you build up her value in your mind. In my case, it’s an ego thing. When a girl’s cold to me, my first impulse is to think: “huh, I guess she must be really cool if she’s treating me this way.” Of course, this is faulty thinking – but that’s the impulse :) .

The best way to deal with this, I’ve found, is to create options for yourself. When you have a lot of girls who like you, the ones who don’t seem unimportant.

The other thing that helps is meditation. When you’re aware of your own thoughts, it’s easy to tell if you only want a girl to prove something to yourself.

Thanks for your insights, good stuff as always :) .

]]> By: John Robie https://themanupblog.com/5-dumb-things-men-think-women-want/#comment-477 John Robie Thu, 26 Apr 2012 13:54:41 +0000 https://themanupblog.com/?p=725#comment-477 Ah, my bad. To clarify- Scott ended up with Ramona, which is who he wanted. My criticism is more with the message of the story rather than Scott's individual taste in women. By him choosing Ramona (bad attitude, tons of baggage, not all that into him) over Knives (upbeat, happy, totally into him) the movie gives off the subtext that the goal for guys is to win a long, hard, difficult battle against the very girl they're trying to get. In my experience, and in the experience of all the happy couples I know, that's completely the opposite. When girls have a load of baggage (ie, Ramona's ex'es) and aren't into the guy right from the beginning (ie, Ramona grudgingly accepts Scott's first date offer only after he awkwardly chases her), the guy usually ends up with more scars, lost time and an emo heartache. When the girls come to the guy with an open minded, flexible, generous, caring attitude (ie, Knives being impressed with Sex Bomb-omb's band practice) and she's totally into him (ie, Knives is obviously into him the whole movie), the couple can relax and just have an Amazing time together. Biggest problem I see with Knives is that she's young and naive. Besides that, she's got Ramona beat in about every other attitude factor when it comes to looking for the kind of woman we want to date. Scott threw away a Rolex so he could try to put a plastic scrunchy on his wrist that didn't even fit. Ah, my bad. To clarify- Scott ended up with Ramona, which is who he wanted. My criticism is more with the message of the story rather than Scott’s individual taste in women.

By him choosing Ramona (bad attitude, tons of baggage, not all that into him) over Knives (upbeat, happy, totally into him) the movie gives off the subtext that the goal for guys is to win a long, hard, difficult battle against the very girl they’re trying to get.

In my experience, and in the experience of all the happy couples I know, that’s completely the opposite. When girls have a load of baggage (ie, Ramona’s ex’es) and aren’t into the guy right from the beginning (ie, Ramona grudgingly accepts Scott’s first date offer only after he awkwardly chases her), the guy usually ends up with more scars, lost time and an emo heartache.

When the girls come to the guy with an open minded, flexible, generous, caring attitude (ie, Knives being impressed with Sex Bomb-omb’s band practice) and she’s totally into him (ie, Knives is obviously into him the whole movie), the couple can relax and just have an Amazing time together. Biggest problem I see with Knives is that she’s young and naive. Besides that, she’s got Ramona beat in about every other attitude factor when it comes to looking for the kind of woman we want to date.

Scott threw away a Rolex so he could try to put a plastic scrunchy on his wrist that didn’t even fit.

]]> By: George P.H. https://themanupblog.com/5-dumb-things-men-think-women-want/#comment-475 George P.H. Thu, 26 Apr 2012 07:33:50 +0000 https://themanupblog.com/?p=725#comment-475 Wait! I'm confused; not sure which girl is which here. Didn't he end up with the girl he wanted in the end? I loved the movie too, it was cool to see all my nerd fantasies come to life :). It's interesting that actors like Michael Cera are getting more shine now; I guess they're more relatable to the average joe. Wait! I’m confused; not sure which girl is which here. Didn’t he end up with the girl he wanted in the end?

I loved the movie too, it was cool to see all my nerd fantasies come to life :) . It’s interesting that actors like Michael Cera are getting more shine now; I guess they’re more relatable to the average joe.

]]> By: John Robie https://themanupblog.com/5-dumb-things-men-think-women-want/#comment-448 John Robie Fri, 20 Apr 2012 17:17:13 +0000 https://themanupblog.com/?p=725#comment-448 Speaking of ridiculous frames set by Hollywood movies... I just saw Scott Pilgrim vs. The World recently. What a sad example of a guy throwing away a cute girl who's totally into him for a meh girl with more red flags than Tiananmen Square, an attitude as bad as a cave troll and who simply just isn't all that into him. Hilarious movie, had a lot of fun watching it, but the movie's choice of the meh girl over the cute girl in the end was wack to the highest degree. Be Amazing, JR Speaking of ridiculous frames set by Hollywood movies… I just saw Scott Pilgrim vs. The World recently. What a sad example of a guy throwing away a cute girl who’s totally into him for a meh girl with more red flags than Tiananmen Square, an attitude as bad as a cave troll and who simply just isn’t all that into him. Hilarious movie, had a lot of fun watching it, but the movie’s choice of the meh girl over the cute girl in the end was wack to the highest degree. Be Amazing,
JR

]]> By: George P.H. https://themanupblog.com/5-dumb-things-men-think-women-want/#comment-438 George P.H. Tue, 17 Apr 2012 09:52:22 +0000 https://themanupblog.com/?p=725#comment-438 Thank you for the kind words :). I think that when you spend a lot of time around women, you understand things differently from the average guy. And it's really cool that your girlfriend actually agrees with you! George Thank you for the kind words :) . I think that when you spend a lot of time around women, you understand things differently from the average guy. And it’s really cool that your girlfriend actually agrees with you!

George

]]> By: JBarros https://themanupblog.com/5-dumb-things-men-think-women-want/#comment-433 JBarros Mon, 16 Apr 2012 16:00:17 +0000 https://themanupblog.com/?p=725#comment-433 This article is just reflection of how I see things. I have actually stopped watching hollywood movies. It's always the nice little boy who gets the women and in reality that is far from the truth. It's true that women don't know what they want. However, I told my girlfriend why she found me so attractive and she totally agreed. Although, If women directly without explaining the masculine traits. They will always tell you the nice little boy. I really loved your article. It seemed like you put to words my personal thoughts lol. This article is just reflection of how I see things. I have actually stopped watching hollywood movies. It’s always the nice little boy who gets the women and in reality that is far from the truth.

It’s true that women don’t know what they want. However, I told my girlfriend why she found me so attractive and she totally agreed. Although, If women directly without explaining the masculine traits. They will always tell you the nice little boy.

I really loved your article. It seemed like you put to words my personal thoughts lol.

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