The Easiest Way To DEFINITELY Get a Girl’s Number

by George P.H. on January 7, 2013

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You’re out with your friends and an absolutely stunning girl appears. As your mind scrambles for something great to say, your body freezes up. She walks by and out of your life, gone forever, while you’re left to wonder what could’ve been.

I know that feeling, brother.

Getting numbers is the biggest sticking point for guys who want to get good with women. They say your first million is always the hardest to make and the same is true here. When you’ve got something to work with, it’s easy to keep progressing – but if you can’t even get numbers, how can you ever get laid/find a girlfriend/work on your social skills? (underline as appropriate)

To help you out, I’ll share the easiest way to definitely get a girl’s number.

Here’s What You Have To Understand

Before I go on, you’ve got to understand and accept the following.

The general population believes that women don’t want us as much as we want them. The idea is, you have to woo a girl before she gives up her digits (or a kiss, or sex).

This is actually our fault. Traditional, male-dominated cultures have repressed female sexuality for hundreds of years, both in their minds and ours.

Why?

Because in human societies, monogamy is superior to polygamy. Over time, ancient polygamous societies had to adapt or get wiped out by monogamous ones.

To enforce monogamy – the superior survival strategy – cultures and religions evolved to encourage female “purity”. A woman who’s pure – i.e. not sexual – is less likely to leave her man or cheat while he’s away at war, hunting, etc.

So humans developed this idea of the “pure” female; the good girl who saves herself for her husband, dresses plainly and doesn’t care much for sex. This ensured monogamy and the continued survival of our race. And even today, society judges women who express their sexuality in behavior and dress.

But George… What Does Any Of This Have To Do With Getting Numbers?!

So alright; society encourages the idea of the “pure” female. The one who needs to get wooed because she doesn’t want men as much as they want her.

Problem is, every time you’re letting a beautiful girl walk by without doing anything, it’s because you actually bought into this idea; that she doesn’t want and need you as much as you want and need her.

BULLSHIT.

If you’re a man, it’d never occur to you put on your best clothes, go to the club and dance in the same spot for six hours straight. BUT WOMEN DO THIS ALL THE TIME because they’re programmed to want our attention!

They want us and want to be wanted by us. They love having us in their lives, they love being in a good man’s presence and they even love… shock, horror… SEX.

If that’s not enough good news for one day, realize that women want us so much they compete for us. This is especially true if a girl is nearing her thirties: her dating pool is shrinking every year, slowly but surely turning you into an EXTREMELY VALUABLE COMMODITY.

So unless the cutie that just walked by is already seeing someone, she’s got every reason to give you her number. The only thing you have to do is ask!

The Easiest Way To Definitely Get A Girl’s Number

  1. Walk up.
  2. Make and hold eye contact.
  3. Tell her she looks great.
  4. Ask for her number.
  5. Don’t flinch.
  6. Walk away and call her later. (NO TEXTING).

Two important points to make here. When I say ask for her number, I don’t mean “um, excuse me ma’am, would you mind leaving me your number… P-p-please?”.

When you request the digits, do it like a man who expects to get them. Pull out your phone and be confident, e.g. “How about you leave me your number?” or “Leave me your number, I’ll call you later.”

Also, if she doesn’t react immediately, DO NOT BREAK OR FLINCH. Don’t start apologizing or mumbling; you’ve got nothing to be embarrassed about. Simply stand there, phone in hand, until she gives you the number or says no.

Over the years, I’ve used this approach hundreds of times. I can only remember a handful of outcomes in which a single, straight woman rejected me. Think about how incredible that success rate is!

Why does this method work so damn well?

  • Like I said above, women really want to meet good men. There’s no reason for a normal, single girl to not leave a mysterious stranger her number.
  • Even a guy with horrendous social skills can’t screw up too badly in the 30 seconds it takes to do this.
  • Women hate murky men who hide their intentions and hit on them covertly. Giving a direct compliment gives you a huge advantage in her eyes.
  • Girls enjoy following strong men. By expecting to get the number and holding tension, you display your dominant presence and spark attraction.

That’s why this is the first and only “line” I give to most clients who want to get good with women. It’s pretty much foolproof. Use it the next time a girl you like walks by and maybe you’ll spend the evening with someone pretty for a change!

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{ 10 comments… read them below or add one }

Max Caywood January 8, 2013 at 3:51 pm

Quick couple questions about the pickup lines, I noticed that they are not posed as questions rather they seem more like commands. Is this important to the delivery? Also, would you recommend the same delivery if I have had casual contact previously with the girl or do you only recommend doing this with someone you haven’t met. LASTLY, I noticed you said in the pickup line that you would call, is this concrete or would texting work as a replacement? Thanks!

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George P.H. January 8, 2013 at 4:39 pm

Hey, Max!

When attracting a girl, you want to make it easy for her to agree to whatever you’re offering. These statements aren’t commands – just guiding questions that are easy to say “Yes” to!

As for your situation – it depends on context. If you saw the girl on campus or at some party and made eye contact, this is fine. If you’ve been introduced before, you have to go by personal judgment – but it’s rarely a bad idea to tell a girl she’s cute and ask for her number!

Texting is a huge no for beginners and intermediates. I wrote a whole post about it way back when, you can check it out here: http://themanupblog.com/how-texting-is-sabotaging-your-dates/

Thanks for reading

George

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Bovj V. January 8, 2013 at 4:21 pm

I gotta favorite this site, really handy stuff!

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George P.H. January 8, 2013 at 4:41 pm

Thanks, I appreciate that!

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Billy Taylor January 8, 2013 at 11:53 pm

George, you know what I really like about this? It beaks all the so-called pickup artist rules! It’s being upfront and honest–something so obvious, you’d never think it’d work. I can already imagine the criticisms from Mystery Method practitioners: “Oh no, you gotta neg her and DHV first to attract her. Only an AFC would compliment her before doing that.” To them, I say bullshit! I agree that women hate murky men who covertly hit on them in a calculating manner, and I think a quality girl will really appreciate the strength and straightforwardness that this simple technique conveys.

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George P.H. January 9, 2013 at 5:07 pm

Thanks a lot, Billy! I agree with you 100%. I think all those PUA techniques come from expecting rejection and trying to weasel your way into sex. I’m glad you get exactly what I was trying to say!

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John Robie January 10, 2013 at 3:35 am

I can confirm this works from my own experience. Simple, straight-up, direct: “Hi, what’s your name? What’s your phone number?” That’s all you need. Good stuff George.

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George P.H. January 10, 2013 at 9:30 am

Thank you John, I appreciate the compliment!

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george January 10, 2013 at 6:42 am

you the man, George and I’m not just saying that because it is my name also.

I have been burned and jaded cuz I am too much of like a free love type of cat sometimes you know? like idealistic. So when I got turned down like I dunno 50 times because my approach was wack —–not based on my intelligence, my attractiveness, self-worth, or any of that——– it cut me down from even approaching.

i didn’t read the rest of your site yet but definitely great article right here.

Right to the point. My buddie’s birthday is tomorrow at some bar I’m going to give it a shot.

I’ve never ever had good take home game from parties or bars.

Once I get em though…. It’s a wrap.

Shoot me an email big guy!

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George P.H. January 10, 2013 at 12:01 pm

Hey, man!

You’re 100% right – even if you got turned down 50 times in a row, it’s because something was wrong with your approach. A man’s looks don’t matter and you can’t know a person from talking for a few minutes, so rejections are ALWAYS about the approach, NEVER about the person.

Thanks for showing love; look forward to seeing you around here more often! :)

George

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